Wednesday, December 28, 2011

JANJI ALLAH BAGI ORG YANG MAHU BERKAHWIN....







1-“Wanita - wanita yang keji adalah untuk lelaki yang keji, dan lelaki yang keji adalah buat wanita - wanita yang keji (pula), dan wanita- wanita yang baik adalah untuk lelaki yang baik dan lelaki yang baik adalah untuk wanita- wanita yang baik (pula)”. (An Nuur : 26)  


Bila ingin mendapatkan jodoh yang baik, maka perbaikilah diri. Hiduplah sesuai dengan ajaran Islam dan Sunnah Nabi-Nya. Jadilah lelaki yang soleh, jadilah wanita yang solehah. Semoga Allah memberikan hanya yang baik buat kita. Amin.  


2-“Dan kahwinikanlah orang-orang yang bujang diantara kamu dan orang-orang yang layak (berkahwin) dari hamba-hamba sahayamu yang lelaki dan perempuan. Jika mereka miskin, Allah akan memberikan mereka dengan kurniaan-Nya. Dan Allah Maha Luas (Pemberian-Nya) lagi Maha Mengetahui”. (An Nur: 32)  

Sebagian para pemuda ada yang merasa bingung dan bimbang ketika akan berkahwin. Salah satu sebabnya adalah kerana belum mempunyai pekerjaan. Dan yang peliknya ketika para pemuda telah mempunyai pekerjaan pun tetap ada perasaan bimbang juga. Sebahagian mereka tetap ragu dengan harta yang mereka dapatkan dari gajinya. Dalam fikiran mereka terdetik, “adakah cukup untuk berkeluarga dengan gaji sekian?”.  


Ayat tersebut merupakan jawapan buat mereka yang masih ragu untuk melangkah ke alam pernikahan kerana alasan ekonomi. Yang perlu ditekankan kepada para pemuda dalam masalah ini adalah kesanggupan untuk memberi nafkah, dan terus bekerja mencari nafkah memenuhi tuntutan berkeluarga. Bukan besarnya wang ringgit yang perlu dibimbangkan. Kelak, Allah akan menolong mereka yang berkahwin. Allah Maha Adil, bila tanggung jawab para pemuda bertambah – dengan kewajiban menafkahi isteri-isteri dan anak-anaknya – maka Allah akan memberikan rezeki yang lebih. Tidakkah kita lihat kenyataan di dalam masyarakat, kebanyakan mereka yang bermula dengan kemiskinan, tidak mempunyai apa-apa ketika menikah, kemudian Allah memberinya rezeki yang melimpah-ruah dan mencukupkan segala kekurangannya?  


3-“ Ada tiga golongan manusia yang berhak Allah tolong mereka, iaitu seorang mujahid fi sabilillah, seorang hamba yang menebus dirinya supaya merdeka dan seorang yang bernikah kerana ingin memelihara kehormatannya”. (HR. Ahmad 2: 251, Nasaei, Tirmidzi, Ibnu Majah hadis no. 2518, dan Hakim 2: 160)  

Bagi siapa saja yang bernikah dengan niat menjaga kesucian dirinya, maka berhak mendapatkan pertolongan dari Allah berdasarkan penegasan Rasulullah Shallallahu ‘
alaihi wa sallam dalam hadis ini. Dan pertolongan Allah itu pasti datang.  


4-“Dan diantara tanda-tanda kekuasaan-Nya ialah Dia menciptakan untukmu isteri-
isteri dari jenismu sendiri, supaya kamu cenderung dan merasa tenteram kepadanya, dan dijadikan-Nya di antaramu rasa kasih dan sayang. Sesungguhnya pada yang demikian itu benar-benar terdapat tanda-tanda bagi kaum yang berfikir”(Ar Rum : 21)  


5-“Dan Tuhanmu berfirman : ‘Berdoalah kepada-Ku, nescaya akan Kuperkenankan bagimu. Sesungguhnya orang-orang yang memalingkan diri dari menyembah-Ku akan masuk neraka Jahanam dalam keadaan hina dina’ ”. (Al Mu’min : 60)  

Ini juga janji Allah ‘Azza wa Jalla, bila kita berdoa kepada Allah nescaya akan diperkenankan-
Nya. Termasuk di dalamnya ketika kita berdoa memohon diberikan pasangan hidup yang agamanya baik, cantik, taat dan sbgnya.  


Dalam berdoa perhatikan adab dan sebab terkabulnya doa. Diantaranya adalah ikhlas, bersungguh-
sungguh, merendahkan diri, mengadap kiblat, mengangkat kedua tangan, dll.  


Perhatikan juga waktu-waktu yang mustajab dalam berdoa. Di antaranya adalah berdoa pada waktu sepertiga malam yang terakhir dimana para malaikat turun dari langit dunia bersama-
sama mengaminkan , pada waktu antara azan dan iqamah, pada waktu turun hujan, dll.  


Perhatikan juga penghalang terkabulnya doa. Di antaranya adalah makan dan minum dari yang haram, juga makan, minum dari usaha dan sumber yang haram, melakukan apa yang diharamkan Allah, dll.  


Manfaat lain dari berdoa bererti kita meyakini kekuasaan Allah, mengakui bahwa Allah itu tempat meminta, mengakui bahwa Allah Maha Kaya, mengakui bahwa Allah Maha Mendengar, dll.  


Sebahagian orang ketika jodohnya tidak sampai-sampai maka mereka pergi ke dukun-dukun dan bomoh berharap agar jodohnya lancar. Sebahagian orang ada juga yang menggunakan guna-guna dan sihir. Cara-cara seperti ini jelas dilarang oleh Islam. Perhatikan hadis-hadis berikut yang merupakan peringatan keras dari Rasulullah Sollallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam:  


“Barang siapa yang mendatangi peramal nasib / dukun, lalu ia menanyakan sesuatu kepadanya, maka tidak diterima solatnya selama empat puluh malam”. (Hadis sahih riwayat Muslim (7/37) dan Ahmad)  


Telah bersabda Rasulullah sollallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, “Maka janganlah kamu mendatangi peramal-
peramal nasib itu.”
(Sahih riwayat Muslim juz 7 hal. 35).  


Telah bersabda Nabi shallallahu ‘
alaihi wa sallam, “
Sesungguhnya jampi-
jampi (mantera) dan guna-guna (sihir) itu adalah (hukumnya) syirik.”
(Hadis sahih riwayat Abu Daud (no. 3883), Ibnu Majah (no. 3530), Ahmad dan Hakim).  


6-”Mintalah pertolongan (kepada Allah) dengan sabar dan solat”. (Al Baqarah : 153)

Mintalah tolong kepada Allah dengan sabar dan solat. Tentunya agar datang pertolongan Allah, maka kita juga harus bersabar sesuai dengan Sunnah Nabi Sollallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam. Juga harus solat sesuai Sunnahnya dan terbebas dari bid’
ah-bid’ah.  


7-“Kerana sesungguhnya sesudah kesulitan itu ada kemudahan, sesungguhnya sesudah kesulitan itu ada kemudahan”. (Alam Nasyrah : 5 –
6)  

 


Ini juga janji Allah. Mungkin terasa bagi kita jodoh yang dinanti tidak kunjung tiba. Segalanya terasa sulit. Tetapi kita harus tetap berbaik sangka kepada Allah dan yakinlah bahwa sesudah kesulitan itu ada kemudahan. Allah sendiri yang menegaskan dua kali dalam Surah An- Nasyrah.  


8-“Hai orang-orang yang beriman jika kamu menolong (agama) Allah, nescaya Dia akan menolongmu dan meneguhkan kedudukanmu”
.(Muhammad : 7)  

 


Supaya Allah Tabaraka wa Ta’ala menolong kita, maka kita tolong agama Allah. Baik dengan berinfak di jalan-Nya, membantu penyebaran dakwah Islam dengan penyebaran buletin atau buku-buku Islam,
membantu penyelenggaraan pengajian, dll. Dengan itu semoga Allah menolong kita.  


9-“Sesungguhnya Allah pasti menolong orang yang menolong (agama)-
Nya.Sesungguhnya Allah benar-benar Maha Kuat lagi Maha Perkasa”. (Al Hajj : 40)  


10-“Ingatlah, sesungguhnya pertolongan Allah itu amat dekat”
.(Al Baqarah : 214)  


Itulah janji Allah. Dan Allah tidak akan menyalahi janjinya. Kalaupun Allah tidak / belum mengabulkan doa kita, tentu ada hikmah dan kasih sayang Allah yang lebih besar buat kita. Kita harus berbaik sangka kepada Allah. Inilah keyakinan yang harus ada pada setiap muslim dan muslimah.  


Jadi, kenapa ragu dengan janji Allah?

Tuesday, December 27, 2011

Things you never put in your resume


taken from: 
http://financiallyfit.yahoo.com/finance/article-113810-11701-4-11-things-you-should-never-put-on-your-resume?ywaad=ad0035&nc


1. Get rid of the objective.
If you applied, it's already obvious you want the job.

2. Cut out all the irrelevant work experiences.
If you're still listing that prized shift leader position from your high school days, it's time to move on.
Yes, you might've been the "king of making milkshakes," but unless you're planning on redeeming that title, it's time to get rid of all that clutter.

3. Take a pass on the personal stuff: marital status, religious preference and Social Security numbers.
This might've been the standard in the past, but all of this information is now illegal for your employer to ask you so there's no need to include it. It will likely only hurt your chances of getting the position more than it would help you, says Catherine Jewell, author of the book "New Résumé, New Career."
[See also: Jobs That Died in 2011]
Another piece of personal information you should never include on your resume is your Social Security number, Sara Player, client support specialist for CareerBuilder.com, told us. Player isn't actually sure why people decide to include their social security numbers, but she knows she sees it all too often and it's unnecessary, not to mention, a little risky.

4. Don't let your resume exceed one page.
Yes, this might be difficult if you've had a lot of experience and you're proud of all of it. But just because you're proud doesn't mean it's necessarily relevant. Cut it down; employers don't have the time to read two whole pages.
CareerBuilder.com's Sara Player says: "Keep your work history short and to the point. When you describe what you have achieved while in the position, try putting it in bullet form and put what is most important first."

5. Don't list your hobbies.
"Nobody cares — it's not your facebook profile," Player says.
In other words, don't put anything on your resume that's irrelevant to your job. If it's not relevant, then it's a waste of space and a waste of the company's time.

6. Don't give them the chance to guess your age.
Yes, your age is included in personal data, but if you don't want to be discriminated from a position because of your age, it's time to remove your graduation date, says Catherine Jewell. Doug Hadley of Mansfield, Texas, told MSN that he's begun to leave out the fact that he's a published author: "I don't want to have to omit such things, but I feel as though I don't even get considered if they are on my resume." Sara Player advises to take out higher education if it's irrelevant to the position you're applying for or if you keep receiving rejection letters stating that you're overqualified.

7. Don't write your resume in the third person.
Charlotte Beckett, head of Digital at The Good Agency, told Linkedin.com that it's fine to write in first person in your opening statement, but the rest of your resume should be in bullet points, such as:
• Developed and delivered marketing strategies for a range of products. You should not write in the third person since the recruiter knows you're the one writing the resume.

8. Don't include references.
If your employers want to speak to your references, they'll ask you. Also, it's better if you have a chance to tell your references ahead of time that a future employer might be calling.If you say "references upon request" at the bottom of your resume, you're merely wasting a valuable line, says career coach Eli Amdur.

9. Don't include a less-than-professional email account.
Make a new one. It takes minutes and it's free.

10. There's no need to identify your phone number.
Amdur says there's no reason to put the word "phone" in front of the actual number.
"It's pretty silly. They know it's your phone number." The same rule applies to email.

11. Don't include your current business contact info.
Amdur writes at Northjersey.com:
"This is not only dangerous, it's stupid. Do you really want employers calling you at work? How are you going to handle that? Oh, and by the way, your current employer can monitor your e-mails and phone calls. So if you're not in the mood to get fired, or potentially charged with theft of services (really), then leave the business info off."

Monday, December 26, 2011

Lana Del Rey - Video Games


this song is really something wen u listen n pay attention to the lyrics..her face mcm sgt oldies.. loike her a lotttttt!!!

Video Games

Swinging in the backyard
Pull up in your fast car
Whistling my name

Open up a beer
And you say get over here
And play a video game

I'm in his favorite sun dress
Watching me get undressed
Take that body downtown

I say you the bestest
Lean in for a big kiss
Put his favorite perfume on

Go play a video game

It's you, it's you, it's all for you
Everything I do
I tell you all the time
Heaven is a place on earth with you
Tell me all the things you want to do
I heard that you like the bad girls
Honey, is that true?
It's better than I ever even knew
They say that the world was built for two
Only worth living if somebody is loving you
Baby now you do

Singing in the old bars
Swinging with the old stars
Living for the fame

Kissing in the blue dark
Playing pool and wild darts
Video games

He holds me in his big arms
Drunk and I am seeing stars
This is all I think of

Watching all our friends fall
In and out of Old Paul's
This is my idea of fun
Playing video games

It's you, it's you, it's all for you
Everything I do
I tell you all the time
Heaven is a place on earth with you
Tell me all the things you want to do
I heard that you like the bad girls
Honey, is that true?
It's better than I ever even knew
They say that the world was built for two
Only worth living if somebody is loving you
Baby now you do

(Now you do)

It's you, it's you, it's all for you
Everything I do
I tell you all the time
Heaven is a place on earth with you
Tell me all the things you want to do
I heard that you like the bad girls
Honey, is that true?
It's better than I ever even knew
They say that the world was built for two
Only worth living if somebody is loving you
Baby now you do

Friday, December 23, 2011

I am thankful..


FOR THE HUSBAND
WHO IS ON THE SOFA
BEING A COUCH POTATO,
BECAUSE HE IS HOME WITH ME
AND NOT OUT AT THE BARS.

FOR THE TEENAGER
WHO IS COMPLAINING ABOUT DOING DISHES
BECAUSE IT MEANS SHE IS AT HOME,
NOT ON THE STREETS.

FOR THE TAXES I PAY
BECAUSE IT MEANS
I AM EMPLOYED.

FOR THE MESS TO CLEAN AFTER A PARTY
BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE
BEEN SURROUNDED BY FRIENDS.

FOR THE CLOTHES THAT FIT A LITTLE TOO SNUG
BECAUSE IT MEANS
I HAVE ENOUGH TO EAT.

FOR MY SHADOW THAT WATCHES ME WORK
BECAUSE IT MEANS
I AM OUT IN THE SUNSHINE

FOR A LAWN THAT NEEDS MOWING,
WINDOWS THAT NEED CLEANING,
AND GUTTERS THAT NEED FIXING
BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE A HOME.

FOR ALL THE COMPLAINING
I HEAR ABOUT THE GOVERNMENT
BECAUSE IT MEANS
WE HAVE FREEDOM OF SPEECH..

FOR THE PARKING SPOT
I FIND AT THE FAR END OF THE PARKING LOT
BECAUSE IT MEANS I AM CAPABLE OF WALKING
AND I HAVE BEEN BLESSED WITH TRANSPORTATION.

FOR MY HUGE HEATING BILL
BECAUSE IT MEANS
I AM WARM.

FOR THE LADY BEHIND ME IN CHURCH
WHO SINGS OFF KEY BECAUSE IT MEANS
I CAN HEAR.

FOR THE PILE OF LAUNDRY AND IRONING
BECAUSE IT MEANS
I HAVE CLOTHES TO WEAR.

FOR WEARINESS AND ACHING MUSCLES
AT THE END OF THE DAY
BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE BEEN
CAPABLE OF WORKING HARD.

FOR THE ALARM THAT GOES OFF
IN THE EARLY MORNING HOURS
BECAUSE IT MEANS I AM ALIVE.

Thursday, December 22, 2011

there's a reason behind His decision..

Selepas ketawa pasti menyusul air mata
Selepas nestapa pasti kegembiraan menjelma
Selepas Allah berikan kita gelap pasti akan datang terang
Allah berikan terang untuk bersyukur
Allah berikan kita gelap untuk bersabar
Kadang-kadang Allah beri kita hujan
Kita tanya mana matahari
Rupa-rupanya Allah nak bagi kita pelangi
 
 
Kadang-kadang Allah beri kita malam yang pekat
Kita tanya mana bulan???
Rupa-rupanya Allah nak bagi kita lihat bintang
Allah patahkan hati kita untuk selamatkan jiwa kita
Allah patahkan hati kita untuk kuatkan diri kita
 
i have always reminded myself that semua yang berlaku ada hikmahnya.. ade hikmah kenapa my parents scolded me wen i was young.. kalau tak aku tatau aku jd ape skang.. ade hikmah i had a fight with my mom sbb die nk soh aku amek TESL.. kalau tak i am not a teacher now.. plenty of stories to be told here.. but i shall not write.. i have always take everything positive (ok i lie..well sometimes not.. hehe).. sometimes i think it's useless to cry over spilt milk.. we cant rewind what has passed kan? we can just improvise.. past is past.. let bygone be bygone.. Allah has His own reason for making all of this happened.. kan?

a note to self..

Wednesday, December 21, 2011

wordless wednesday..

















p/s: i secretly wish to own these huge Chanel collections in my wardrobe.. one day insya Allah..

pic credits to Redmummy and Purseblog and Google

Tuesday, December 20, 2011

don't give up on anything..

got this from a friend..
 
Saat hati berkata "INGIN", namun qadar Allâh berkata "TUNGGU"...

Saat air mata "MENITIS", namun qadar Allâh berkata"TERSENYUMLAH"...

Saat segala nya terasa "MEMBOSANKAN", namun qadar Allâh berkata "TERUSLAH MELANGKAH"...

Wednesday, December 14, 2011

Happy birthday baby! *delayed*


altho it's a lil bit late for this entry, i still wana publish it.. meant to publish it on his birthday, tp byk sgt kojenye.. jd delay la..

happy birthday sayang! i'm not good in arranging words.. but here goes..

no matter how old you are, (ohh.. dh 30 dh kannnnnnn??)
i will always love u..
no matter how bad the gray hair on you head,
i will always love u..
no matter what..

xoxo,
ur wifey who hasnt reached her BIG 3 O yet.. *grin*

Wednesday, December 7, 2011

wordless wednesday


saye rindu dgn bau kete ni.. =( (eh? i tot it shud be wordless? hehe)

Tuesday, December 6, 2011

Kemarahan...

some good words to start of your day..

Kita menempiaskan 99% kemarahan walau kepada orang yang paling kita cintai. Dan akibatnya
adalah penyesalan. Seringkali penyesalan itu datang di kemudiannya, akibatnya setelah kita menyedari kesalahan kita, semua sudah terlambat….

Kerana itu, jagalah dan sayangilah orang yang dicintai dengan sepenuh hati… Sebelum mengucapkan sesuatu berfikirlah dahulu, apakah kata kata yang kamu ucapkan akan menyakiti orang yang dicintai? Kira merasakanakan menyakitinya, sebaiknya jangan pernah dilafazkan. Kerana semakinbesar risiko untuk kehilangan orang yang dicintai.

Jadi berfikirlah, apakah kata-kata yang akan dilafazkan sebanding dengan akibat yang akan diterima??


Monday, December 5, 2011

which one to choose..

yesterday,my husband and i were discussing about choosing the best in our lives.. it was all started wen he read one of his friend's status in FB.. then we talked about it.. it's all about making decision which is the best for us.. i still remember about him choosing between UMT and UMP.. it's really hard for him as this uni offered him with a good pay and the other one not.. too many things that we have to choose in our lives.. to get married or to still enjoy the best of life, to eat or not to eat, to stay or not to stay, to buy or not to buy and many more..i told him, when i decided to get married to him, it is really hard to make that decision.. because in that situation, i have to choose between a friend (x-boyfriend) that i have known for 7 years and him(my husband) who i know nothing about.. it's a risk i told him..

after i broke up with my xbf, i felt deeply devastated to know that my relationship with him has ended.. it's a big lie kalau ckp kte tak frust.. my husband knows all the story.. he was with me.. and my relationship with my husband that time was a rebound actually.. tempat utk melepaskan rase sunyi and marah.. sbb aku rase aku nk time off sbb asyik bergaduh over the same thing.. tapi suddenly aku terpikir, sampai bile aku nk mcm ni.. i told my mom about it.. i did my solat istikharah.. and refuse to get in touch with both of them.. it was hard really, but i have to.. after a few days, God has decided that my husband is the one for me.. at first, i denied His decision.. i called my x bf, telling him the decision..i told him baik buruk yg mendatang, biar aku telan.. sbb ni keputusan yg aku buat.. i have to say goodbye to our 5 years relationship eventho that's the hardest thing to do in my life.. yes, ppl might say i'm crazy and tade hati perut to let the relationship ended.. but what to do.. i am tired already.. fought over the same thing.. makan hati over the same thing.. that was a history to be kept la kan? the next day i told my husband about that decision and ask him to meet my parents.. and the story goes sampai la skang..

i'm writing this bkn nk bkk luka lame tp just to share that Allah has promised something in the future.. aku slalu mengingatkan diri aku yg sgale yg berlaku ada hikmah.. yes its hard to choose especially when the other person is that someone yg u knal for a shorter time compared to the other one..  i hope that my x-bf is happy with his life now.. at least, kalau die ade gf, she wont suffer the thing yg i telan.. insya Allah.. and i always tell my husband to doakan yg terbaik utk his ex-tunang.. walaupon both of them tade jodoh.. Allah dh tentukan jodoh kite dgn siape and sampai bile.. Allah dh tulis everything for our lives.. kite cuma perlu berusaha.. my life now is alhamdulillah.. dikurniakan seorg putera yg jadi penawar and racun in our lives.. utk esk? i'll strive for the best for my life.. insya Allah..

 credit to My Attitude - My Life - My Rules

"Sometimes it lasts in love, but sometimes it hurts instead" - Adele